Ego & Self-Love

"I am not looking at you; I am looking INTO you... those feelings evoked in you are your soul essences" -Lan Shu

I have been getting a lot of powerful yet interesting comments from my clients lately. The effects or impacts that I didn’t realize I had on people. I guess through helping others, I am also slowly discovering myself - the essences of my Being. I was not surprised because whenever I talk to my clients, I am always fully present in the moment - Words pop out of my mouth spontaneously; Love emanated out of my heart as river flows to the ocean. I was more amazed at how much we really are connected on a soul level - that everyone whether consciously or subconsciously feels that essences, that energy, that LOVE.

They told me that there was something about my presence, my voices, and my smile that are really healing and soothing to them. They told me they felt that they had known me for years that they could share everything with me - even the darkest, the most embarrassing moments of their life or aspects of themselves. They felt like they could be themselves for the first time. They told me that I calmed them down; I brought joy and smile to their face… There was no judgements, no rules, no right or wrong. It is just a complete space of openness and love. It is like for glimpses of moments that I broke their walls of Ego and touched their Soul. They told me that they love me - not in a romantic sense but it is sense of Self-love actually, because I evoked something that is so familiar and warm inside of them. Those are the feelings they felt in love with, those are aspects of their True Essences, for we ALL share the same essences and we ALL come from one Source.

All forms of negative emotions stem from lack of Self-love - that seems to be the underlying theme among my clients for the past month. Whether it is depression, anxiety, insecurity, shyness, hatred, guilt, shame, lost… those feelings came up as a result of a perception or a belief that either one, multiple or all aspects of oneself are not “acceptable”, not right, not perfect…etc. Those beliefs or perceptions have become part of the ego identity, become the steering wheel of our habitual reactions, emotions, or behaviors.

Remember the first time you felt rejected, abandoned, criticized, judged, ridiculed, insulted, shamed… you felt hurt and pain inside. You were convinced by your ego that those feelings are real; what other people say to or think of us matters; that we are unworthy, imperfect, not good enough… Now, The TRUE reason you felt pain and hurt inside is because what others did to or think of you are so FAR from the truth of who you ARE. That is the “pain” or “calling” from your soul essences wanting so much to shine through the dark clouds emitted by the Ego. You are a powerful and perfect being that is worthy of LOVE, abundance and joy in life! Please understand that everything else is an illusion; there was, is only and always will be LOVE.

True Love (or Self-love) emerges during our internal journey to reunite with our soul essences; Ego is the illusional identity that get strengthened or weakened every time we seek Love, Fame, Power, Value, Money, Blockages …etc. Externally. Ego is your temporal, false self that is constructed by your mind. Ego likes to play “hide & seek”. Every time you are not able to “find” or consciously perceive your ego, your ego become even more playful and tricky. It likes to hide in your subconscious or put on different disguises so you will not be able to differentiate it from your true identity.

People ask me “If Ego is so ‘bad’, how do I get rid of it for good?” Please Understand that just like everything in this world, Ego is neutral in and by itself. It is YOU that give it “life”, meaning, and power. In the game of “hide & seek”, when the person who is hiding get found every time it tries to hide, the game becomes boring and the person will eventually stop playing the game. The same principle applies to your Ego - the only way to “kill” its “playful spirits” is to shine your light of awareness on IT, to “find” it every time it emerges in your being. You don’t have to get rid of it, you just have to recognize and accept it. Your Ego will eventually give up, take a backseat and let your true self take back control of the wheel. “But HOW?” you might ask… and THAT is a question from your Ego. Please be aware and do not let doubt, fear or guilt stop you from reaching within.

You don’t have to change or reconcile with your past memories, past lives, or service your karma to find and deserve Self-love. Your soul essence is exactly the same place where you left it. You just have to stop taking “detours” that shift you away from it. When you do, your default position will be your soul essence. You simply need to quiet your mind and find that LIGHT that is always within you. Everything else is an excuse, limitation, or distraction placed by the mind. You can find Self-love instantaneously if you manage to get out of the mind traps. You don’t need to wait for the future to arrive; you don’t have to sign up for a special program; you don’t have to follow any steps; just BEING in the NOW.

Here are the glimpses of my sensations I had when I found that LOVE within…

“At that moment, my entire being is surrounded with only LOVE, every cell of my body emanated LOVE… there was no thought, no worries…only so much connection I felt with everyone and everything… that deep touch from my soul brought tears into my eyes… that realization that nothing else is REAL, there is… only… LOVE…those are the tears of joy and bliss - a deep affirmation that the things I have been looking for so long is always there within me, with me every step along the way. I finally SEE me”

Want to know something that is going to “twist” your mind even more? There is no REAL “internal” or “external” because ALL of us are eventually ONE consciousness. It is just in this 3D reality, we perceive “ourselves” and “the rest of the world”. Please understand that in this universe, in this existence, EVERYONE is the CENTER of the reality. Everything around you shift based on YOUR thoughts, intentions, and perceptions.

As long as you still perceive a “separation”, you will continue to seek “externally” and forget that you are the one that created those external realities. The moment you start to go the opposite direction and dive within, you will project a light outwards that will connect the dots and reveal the ultimate the truth that WE ARE ONE.

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